James started connecting naturally.

James started connecting easily.

James started connecting enjoyably.

8 weeks earlier, James emailed me.  He was pissed.  He was angry.  He felt all alone, that he had been gyped, he felt that nobody on earth understood him.

Except for me.

He had been reading articles here, on NLP LIVE for a few weeks.  The night he emailed me he had been reading for over an hour.    It was then, that it hit him.

“I don’t need more techniques methods or secrets, what I need is someone like you to, just do what you do.  I’ve heard you on your radio show, I’ve listened to your recordings, I’ve heard how you so naturally connect with people.  I need you to connect with me and help me get what I’ve been missing.  Would you please help me?  I need to connect with people, and I don’t want to keep trying to use rapport methods.”

So we did a total of 10 weeks of coaching.  Helping him “do what I do”.

Our calls were fun, challenging, and very unique.  They were NOT about rapport techniques or rapport methods.

We did 10 weeks of rapport coaching, helping him notice when he did just 2 things.

1. Notice when he was losing peoples interest and attention.
2. Notice when he left them behind, and went into his own little trance world.

I trained him how to NOTICE and USE ATTENTION, because:

All people want is attention – from you.

If you don’t know how to NOTICE BOTH your attention and their attention, then you are probably one of those people who are frustrated, and wondering why you still can’t connect with people.

Let me know if this makes sense, and if you want in.

Email:  2020@exhostage.com

James, I thank you for asking me to do this kind of work with you.  I thank you for having the guts to reach out, to keep showing up for our calls, and for investing in you.

I was sitting there, I watched her move from across the room, and I knew that I wanted to talk with her.  She looked interesting, energetic, alive.

So I walked past her, up to the counter, to get another cup of coffee, I glanced over at her, relaxed, focused my gaze on her, and immediately I noticed her neclace.

“Hi, I’ve been admiring your necklace from across the room, did you make it?”

She looked at me, saw that I was sincere, and then we started talking.

In the next 25 minutes, I learned that she bought it on a trip to Virginia Beach, and that she goes there 2 times a year.  Once with her friends, once with her family.

We talked until she had to get back to work, she would have given me her number if I had asked, she hinted several times, and she said she hoped that we would bump into each other again.    We did, I introduced her to Carol, and she became a friend of ours.

“All of the good ones are taken.”

So why did she open up like that?   I didn’t “NLP” or “seduce” her.

How to easily and naturally get rapport.

“When you meet someone, keep in mind that you meet their heart, their body, their mind.”

I tied all three of those together.  I gave her a genuine compliment, asked a question I wanted the answer to, and centered it all around something SPECIFIC about her.  This something specific could be about a thing she has or activity she does.

Compliment = heart.

Question = mind.

Necklace = body.

You can use this “method” to meet just about anyone, and if you are genuine with it, you can get invited deep into their world.

Have fun,

Mr Twenty Twenty